In our series on disability, sex and relationships, expert and resident agony aunt Tuppy – who runs Outsiders, a private club for disabled people looking for a relationship – answers your questions.This week we’re talking about online dating and staying safe. But that doesn't mean you don't have control over your fate. In this post, I am going to teach you a few steps to help make this happen. I hate to start this list on a shallow note, but no matter how amazing the written portion of your profile is, if the pictures are not up to par, the majority of men will never even read it. This doesn't mean you have to be above-average in the looks department. Make a calculated effort to post pictures that are both flattering to your particular look while also revealing the best aspects of your personality. They know they have to be interesting to get a response, but thinking of something interesting to say every single time they message a woman is very difficult. However, let's suppose you change this statement to, "I'm always up for a night of camping out under the stars (don't forget to ask me about the time I was almost attacked by a bear! The world of online dating is filled with the good, the bad and the downright ugly when it comes to suitors. With a bit of hard work and training, anyone can create a profile that will stand out from the competition and attract the right people. Often, men will see a profile they are attracted to, struggle with what to say, get frustrated and consequently, skip to the next profile. Writing in your profile that "I love camping in the summer," doesn't make it easy for the reader to strike up a conversation.If you’re reading this and are single, you probably already have a dating profile on at least one online dating site. Yes, I know how amazing it would be to simply meet a guy or gal in person, in a relaxed setting, and have everything effortlessly fall into place from there.
The more bait you leave, the more likely men will message you without skipping to the next profile. If you want to stand out from the crowd, reveal your personality in a unique way.
You: Hey would you be down to grab coffee sometime? 🙂 You: Are you free at all next week — maybe Tuesday?
That way, any messages you send are more likely to get responses.
True, there are all sorts of dishonest, cheating, no good, malicious, troublemakers on these sites with outdated photos, falsified profiles, and inaccurate marital statuses that you need to be aware of and on guard against, but they shouldn’t stop you from enjoying the benefits that online dating has to offer. So now that you’re online and ready to look for the “right one”, you need to make sure that your profile is up to par. The two areas that you can and must work on are your photos and essays, which are really the only things that potential partners will have to go on when deciding whether to expend valuable time and resources in pursuit of you.
Your online dating profile consists of three parts: 1. They will make assumptions, presumptions, and projections based upon a photo and a few hastily typed lines of text. It sounds pretty shallow and arbitrary, because it is, but it’s reality, so you might as well use it to your advantage and post the most amazing profile imaginable, and reap the rewards.