I'll be sitting at the long-bar, talking to a friend, or even on Twitter, and suddenly I'll catch myself in a flirt.Whether I do it to relieve some tension, to have some lighthearted convo, or because I find the person attractive, it is rather hard to abstain from flirting on a daily basis.I wanted more than this simple statement, I prompted him to elaborate.However, he said instead of elaborating, I just want you to watch something.It struck me like a bolt of lightening one night- I HAD to start focusing on myself, or I would never find happiness.It had little to do with the men in my life, and everything to do about me. Not that I want to crucify myself over it, but I needed to take responsibility.
Over the following months, they played tennis, spent time with one another’s parents, and really connected.
It was the first time I felt oxytocin—that magical little brain chemical responsible for feelings of intimacy and bonding after sex—in all its glory and did not think I was in love. “I love oxytocin, but now I don’t have to think I’m falling in love every time! My decision to stop dating wasn’t rash, but it was necessary. “I worry that you’re shutting yourself off.” “But what if you meet someone?!
It doesn’t count if you’re bored.” Besides, it was incredibly eye opening. Turns out, love is a lot more complicated than brain chemistry.
What were some of the difficulties you encountered during the year?
It was much more difficult in the first few months, as I am very flirty by nature.