Sure, talking through your feelings with a friend can be helpful when working up the courage to break up, but try to limit yourself to how many people heard the test-run of your dumping speech. and when he finds out from someone other than you, he’ll feel more devastated and very much humiliated. Get some woman courage and tell them in the face – answering machine, emails, text messages, post-its and faxes are not cool ways to break up.
This will only put you in his Worst Girlfriend Hall of Fame for life. If you are angry, chances are you are mad at yourself for not seeing who this person was earlier, or for not trusting your own instincts.
You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.Don’t lose heart: you will move on in time, find a love better suited for you, and all of this will be a memory. If your ex is pushing for friendship, stand your ground if you’re uncomfortable with the idea.In the meantime, when mourning the end of a relationship, be sure to avoid the following “don’ts” of breakup etiquette, which can just end up harming you more. Right now, you’re not looking for a friend who looks exactly like the person who broke your heart.Women are certainly guilty of putting their kids ahead of their partner — maybe even more so than men, especially since they are nearly always the primary care giver in the event of divorce.But in this moment when men are struggling to claim their place as equal parents while society expects divorced dads to be the lackadaisical weekend father, I get why you are compelled to go overboard with your expressed devotion. If you are indeed ready for a real love, create a space for her.