Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.
It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story. It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. Start off with the positive and try to stay in mode before you decide he’s not right for you.
Though they are polar opposites; her need of stability is fulfilled with him, his need of optimism is fulfilled with her.
By being open and honest with others regarding your availability, you’re likely to receive their help updating your single status. In fact, there’s no better time to shake up your usual routine by finding more opportunities to attend different events, classes and outings that can expand your mind as well as your social circle.
Whether it’s a gallery opening, a cooking class or a poetry reading, when you put yourself out there in new and interesting ways, you’re upping your chances of meeting someone new of interest.4. Along these same lines, you should utilize the gatherings, groups and get-togethers in your area that are designed specifically for singles.
But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.