But to pull the Ok Cupid data back up, users who write “sexy,” “beautiful,” “hot,” or “cutie” in their initial messages have a below-average response rate.Focusing on appearance from the get-go can make us wonder if we have anything substantive to connect over. Apologizing Trust me, I know what it’s like to send a message when you’re already picturing the recipient sighing in exasperation upon opening it, insulted that you would even imply you were in the same league. Your openers follow the standard opener rules (very brief, non-needy, doesn’t compliment appearance, doesn’t get sexual, etc).
While sometimes it’s your profile that makes women think twice, I can also attest that your message itself can kill your chances of a response.It’s that there are less women on dating sites who are actually there to meet a guy in real life.Years ago, most women on dating sites (not all, but most) were there for one reason: to find a guy they were interested in, then get in a car or bus and go meet that guy in real life. Today, most women on dating sites have no intention whatsoever of actually meeting a guy in real life. They’re there for all kinds of other reasons, such as: With every passing year there is a huge upsurge in the amount of women in the above categories.Today I’ll explain the reasons why this overall decrease is happening.There are many of them, and I’m probably not going to cover them all, but these are the big ones. There are far less “serious” women on dating sites. It’s not that there are more or less women on dating sites.