I want to find the One, the special relationship that will last many years and multiply happiness. But I’m bad at small talk, and I jump too fast to intellectual conversations, making it awkward. I wanted to find the perfect match, so I wasn’t going to be an amateur about it.
I’m a fat, bald, short guy whose only quality is that he isn’t an ax murderer. Since I’m 31, and eventually want a family, I figured I’d better not procrastinate. For any serious endeavor, you need a serious process.
After the pleasantries are exchanged and the drinks are ordered, after the conversation moves from jobs to tastes in music to viral You Tube videos, after the awkward fumbling for the check, the walk to the curb, the stilted hug-turned-air-kiss-turned-forehead bump, after the goodbyes—every first date leaves one nagging question: Will you ever hear from them again?
The dating game is an imperfect market: you may dazzle your date with your wit and mega-watt smile only to never hear from them again.
Suggesting a pizza date, for example, only had a 15% success rate for a second date.
But suggesting fried chicken allowed for a 24% chance of a follow-up.
In computer science, this is known as the optimal stopping algorithm, aka the secretary problem. An abstraction layer capable of managing online dating for me: My first problem was solved: getting leads into the pipeline. If I changed my profile picture and got more “likes” as a result, that meant it was better.
I was tracking data, which made it easy to see what performed best.
An Introduction to Economic Dating Theory Dating as an economic field of study dates back to Gary Becker’s famous 1973 two-part article “.” Becker envisioned society as a massive cocktail party with men and women as rational players trying to optimize their own mate selection.It’s your chance to iron out all the wrinkles from last time.Maybe you talked a little too fast, or didn’t quite focus enough on your date; whatever happened, this is your chance to create an ‘upgraded’ version of your first date.On the other hand, get things wrong at this stage and you could blow your chances (no pressure!) Try to think of this next date as a re-run of your first date, rather than a ‘second date’.