Joanna recently asked me a question: "When is it best to bring up what my goals are?
If someone had a crush, they would either giggle and hide, or ask them out. Now, if my son or daughter were to one day tell me that’s all there was to it, I would probably roll my eyes at that now. Also, after you have reached relationship status, buy his lunch and his dinner every now and then too. The cultural narrative is a simple one: It's women who want marriage (or its close approximations) more than men. To soothe that masculine anxiety about being ensnared, women need to disguise their intentions, hide their own eagerness, and above all, avoid any discussion of a "shared future" for as long as humanly possible.I was talking to a friend of mine recently about her dating life.She wants to (as my evangelical friends put it) date "intentionally" -- that is, with the explicit intention of moving toward marriage.If a guy isn't marriage material, or has no interest in getting married -- or is planning on waiting until he's struck by divine certainty -- Joanna wants to know sooner rather than later so that she can move on.